It’s been four days since we came home without Samuel. That’s longer than the three days we were in the hospital, and significantly longer than the 1.5 days of his short, beautiful life.
It’s impossible to put into words how profoundly Samuel’s life has changed us. I think about little else: his soft hair, holding him in his final hours, how we can best honor and remember him in the days and years to come, and so much more. The smell, even the taste, of the hospital are still with me, almost as if our time together physically changed me in some way.
As Joanna and I continue cherishing Samuel’s special place in our life, we want to invite you to a service of remembering him this Saturday, February 4th at 10am. It will be held in the main auditorium of Elim Gospel Church in Lima, NY. The pastors and staff at the church are going all out to celebrate with us the blessing that Samuel was, and continues to be, and it would be incredibly meaningful for us if you’d join us this Saturday to honor his life. There will be a time after the service to visit together, and we hope to see as many of you there as can come.
Saturday, February 4th, 2017 at 10am
Elim Gospel Church
1679 Dalton Rd
Lima, NY 14485
For our friends in different parts of the country and the world, we’ll be live-streaming the service online for those who can’t make it. The service will be available at http://elimgospelchurch.churchonline.org at 10am EST.
How to Help
An almost continual question we hear is: “How can we help?” It’s tough to answer, because we already feel so blessed and taken care of. We have many meals already provided for us, and both of our families have been wonderfully supportive. If you’d like to help with future meals, a Wegmans gift card is a great idea. (You can mail gift cards to The Knileys c/o Campus Target, PO Box 536, Lima NY 14485.)
One tip we got at the hospital is: ask people to check in with us weeks and months from now. After the immediacy of all this fades, Joanna and I will still carry Samuel in our hearts for years to come. Please bring Samuel up in conversation, don’t be afraid of tears, and ask about him well after most people have moved on. Samuel will forever be our second child, and when people honor and recognize him we receive that as love.
Joanna and I are financially supported by donations in our work with Campus Target. If you’d like to make a donation toward our ministry you can do so through the Elim Fellowship website.
Most of all, Joanna and I simply value your care and concern for us. I have been at times overwhelmed by the love so many people have lavished on us, and there’s been a real sense of healing and hope in my heart as we’ve received so much care. More than gifts or flowers or anything else, we’re thankful for you, and we hope to see you this Saturday morning to honor Samuel’s life together.